Monday, August 3, 2015

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Thanksgiving 2014


Just over 4 years ago, Steve & I were in a place in our lives we never thought we'd be.  He sold his production business when the economy crashed in 2008, breaking even on some things, but not so much on most.  He found a new job, but because of some bizarre circumstances, lost that job.  We lost our home during that time, as well, and started feeling the weight of the world on our shoulders. Claire was born and living her first full year of life during this difficult time, and if we didn't have her, I don't know if we would have made it as a couple.  From 2008-2011, we struggled...financially, emotionally, in our marriage, spiritually.  They were the hardest years of my life.  During these years, we lived in 3 different houses (the one we lost, the one we couldn't afford, and the one with the crazy landlord).  We were literally getting to the point where we didn't know what we were going to do. Every time it seemed like we were taking steps in the right direction, something would happen and knock us back down.  

At one point, Steve's parents asked us if we'd consider moving into a home with them.  They were selling their place, and we needed to get away from the crazy landlord.  "No," we told them.  "Thanks for the offer, but we can figure this out."

I didn't tell Steve that I was praying about the opportunity to live with his parents.  But I was.  A lot. And at some point, I don't know when, I knew it was the right thing for us.  But how would I convince my husband that we needed to move in to a home with his parents??  I casually brought it up to him one night.  "Hey... remember that crazy idea of moving in with your parents?  Well, I've been praying about it and I think we should."

"Really?!?  I've been praying about it, too, but I didn't know how to talk to you about it because I didn't think you'd want to live with my parents."

Well, hello God.  Sorry we ever doubted You!

We began looking for houses.  Somewhere in the middle of where we all worked.  And somewhere with enough space to fit all of us, but make us feel like we had our own space.  And of course, God provided the perfect home.  It just solidified in all of our hearts that we were making the right choice.

A lot has happened in the last 4 years.  Steve has built up an incredible business doing what he loves. My baby sister began dating, got engaged to, and married Steve's younger brother (and they're expecting their first baby in October!!  I'm going to be an AUNTIE!!).  Claire started kindergarten.  I went back to teaching after doing children's ministry for several years.  We got a dog.  We had a baby! Our marriage is the best it's ever been.  I've grown in my relationships with my in-laws in ways I never expected.  And for all of that, I'm so incredibly grateful.

But... our time of living together is coming to an end.  In August, we will be moving to an adorable little home 4 minutes from our school (no more 35 minute one-way commute!!) and Steve's parents bought a beautiful home on the coast.  It's all so bittersweet.  I can't thank my in-laws enough for all the ways they've helped us, supported us, encouraged us, babysat and cooked meals for us.  As much as we're really looking forward to having our own place and being closer to our community of friends, we're really going to miss our daily interactions with them.  It's going to be a big adjustment (especially for Claire, who's lived with them since she was almost 3!).

These almost 4 years of living together are always going to hold a special place in my heart.  And for that, I am so grateful.
Grateful Heart w/ Ember Grey

12 comments:

Britt Hanson said...

This is so sweet. How amazing how things work out! Good luck on your new adventure!

Heidi Lee said...

That was beautifully written Amy! Raw and open...and just beautiful.

Amy @ Set Free said...

Thank you!! We're really excited! :)

Amy @ Set Free said...

Thanks Heidi!! 😘

Southern Komfort Blog said...

What a wonderful thing to be grateful for! My husband and I literally just moved out of my parents' house (this past weekend) and we cannot even begin to thank them for all the help they've provided. Here's to new adventures for each of us!

Samara said...

I love reading positive stories about in laws, especially when everyone seems to speak so negatively about them. Praise God for kind hearted families who are generous with their homes :) Hope the move goes smoothly :)

Christine Everyday said...

I always love to hear stories like this. So glad you have such a strong support system to rely on!

Emily @ Ember Grey. said...

:) Real life, real relationships, real love. Thank you for sharing this, Amy <3 Can't wait to give you a hug next month! I'm SO glad you found a place!! I have been thinking of and praying for you guys!


New and wonderful adventures await... :)

Amy @ Set Free said...

Isn't it such a blessing to have family to come along side and just be there?? Feeling super blessed. Excited to hear about your new adventures!! :)

Amy @ Set Free said...

It's so true. And not to say we haven't had our issues, but we've definitely been able to work through them and get to a place where we really enjoy each other.

Amy @ Set Free said...

Thank you!! Yes, I am incredibly lucky!

Amy @ Set Free said...

Thank you so much for praying! We're excited for this new adventure. We're literally moving into a shoebox, but we know we're right in the middle of God's Plan for our lives. xoxo